In Paul Tripp’s discussion of confrontation on pages 200-209 of his book Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands he lists these points to remember about confronting one another. His points come from Leviticus 19:15-18.
Confrontation is rooted in a submission to the First Great Commandment (Matthew 22:37).
Confrontation is rooted in the Second Great Commandment (Matthew 22:39).
Confrontation is our moral responsibility in every relationship.
Confrontation is meant to be more of a lifestyle than an unusual event…This passage [Leviticus 19:15-18] envisions a ‘constant conversation’ model where daily intervention of honest rebuke is a regular part of all relationships.
We fail to confront in love because we have yielded to subtle and passive forms of hatred.
We fail to confront because we have yielded to more active forms of hatred.
Confrontation flows out of a recognition of our identity as the children of God.
Proper Biblical confrontation is never motivated by impatience, frustration, hurt, or anger.
Confrontation does not force a person to deal with you, but places him before the Lord.