A husband’s first duty is to understand that he is in fact a husband, which is another way of saying that he needs to understand his profound identification with his wife. The first words out of Adam’s mouth were “bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh,” a love poem. He was not welcoming a new roommate; he is naming one who had been taken from him in order to be merged back into him in a new, more glorious fashion. God made one into two in order to make the two back into one. Now a husband is commanded to love his wife as he loves his own body–nobody ever hated his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it. Why do some husbands not nourish and cherish their wives? Because they do not believe their wives are their own body. Which is another way of saying they do not believe the Scriptures. Douglas Wilson